Project Confidence

# 11 - Inspired to Try

My daughter’s first glimpse of gymnastics inspired her to learn instead of feeling discouraged. Her growth mindset led her to discover a passion for something new. As adults, we often let comparison stop us from trying, but adopting a mindset of inspiration can open doors to joy and growth. Tune in for tips on turning comparison into curiosity, celebrating others, and rediscovering the thrill of learning.

#10 - The Joneses Won’t Make You Happy

Keeping Up With the Joneses is a real struggle for many. In this episode, we dive into the phrase's origins, tell a relatable story we can all learn from, and explore two studies that show people prefer feeling better than their neighbors over being financially secure. 

#9 - The Cost of Comparison: What is Comparison Holding You Back From?

In this episode, I share a personal story from my writing journey—how comparing myself to what I thought an author "should" be almost stopped me from submitting my books for publication. My struggles with spelling made me doubt my worthiness, but overcoming that fear opened doors to incredible opportunities. What could comparison be costing you?

#8 - The DM That Changed Everything: How Appreciation Breaks the Comparison Cycle

In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about a message that changed my perspective. At a time when I was stuck in self-doubt and comparison, a heartfelt DM thanking me for my book gave me the confidence to believe in myself again.
Appreciation isn’t just good for you—it has the power to free both the giver and receiver from the trap of comparison.

#7 - The Power of Appreciation

Appreciation is a powerful antidote to comparison, healing self-doubt and shifting our mindset from jealousy to gratitude. When we truly value what others bring to the table, it creates a strong, nonthreatening foundation for connection. Appreciation is the "A" in the AIR section of our SOAR program—an essential step to removing comparison from your life and embracing genuine connection.

#6 - Different Priorities, Same Table: Letting Go of Comparison Around the Holiday Table

How to avoid letting differing points of view ruin the holidays with your family. This week, we will explore what comparisons lead to tension and strained relationships at family get-togethers and offer some tips to avoid that bitterness from building. 

#5 - Say Goodbye to Comparison: The SOAR Blueprint to Becoming Your Best Self

Comparison is natural, but that doesn't mean we must accept and keep comparative thoughts coming our way. You can choose to replace them! Listen to learn my four-step SOAR process—a method I've used for 20 years to overcome comparison and find contentment. It works!

#4 - How Entertainment and Media Fuel the Comparison Trap (Without Us Even Noticing)

In this episode, we dive into how the entertainment and media we consume subtly shape our perceptions and encourage comparison. From camera angles and lighting that highlight "ideal" bodies to comparative marketing that convinces us that happiness is only a purchase away comparison is subtly being sold. We also explore how aging is portrayed as something to fear and fight against—all to keep us spending money. Finally, we discuss how inflammatory news promotes comparative thinking. 

#3 - It is Never Fair: The Truth About Social Comparison

One important truth to embrace is that no social comparison is ever fair. Each of us is a unique individual, shaped by countless factors that contribute to both our strengths and weaknesses. To compare ourselves to each other is simply not fair. 

#2 - The Habit You Have That Makes You Either Vain or Bitter

There are only two outcomes from engaging in social comparison: it either builds vanity or fosters bitterness. Recognizing this truth motivates us to make a change when we catch ourselves comparing. In this episode, I share my personal story of how I came to realize my own comparison habit and learned that comparison always leads to a negative result.